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Resist and Refuse: When a Child Does Not Want to Spend Time with One Parent

Resist and Refuse: When a Child Does Not Want to Spend Time with One Parent

  |   By Nanda Davis

I recently attended a seminar taught by clinical child psychologist, Edward Farber (author of Raising the Kid You Love with the Ex You Hate) on what he calls “Resist and Refuse” cases—when a child resists or refuses to see one parent in a divorce or separation.  Dr. Farber focused on those cases where the child’s refusal to see a parent was unjustified and acknowledged that cases where the rejection was justified (like abuse and neglect... Read more »
Why Divorce is an Investment in Yourself

Why Divorce is an Investment in Yourself

  |   By Nanda Davis

Consider your divorce as a positive investment in yourself and your future. Just like any other investment in yourself, such as getting an education or getting in shape, a divorce takes time, energy, and money. In all of these instances, it's often true you get out what you put into it. If  you want to increase your strength and endurance, you might hire a personal trainer or put in consistent time at the gym. If... Read more »
Warning Signs of Emotional Abuse

Warning Signs of Emotional Abuse

  |   By Nanda Davis

It can often be hard to tell if you are the victim of emotional abuse. Abusers are manipulative and unfortunately their repetitive behavior can become your normal. Below is a list of warning signs of emotional abuse that I see frequently in my line of work. While your abuser might not fit every category on this list, or he has other behaviors not listed, it can still be just as damaging. If the below experiences... Read more »
Giving Yourself Grace as You Consider Divorce

Giving Yourself Grace as You Consider Divorce

  |   By Nanda Davis

The most intense feelings of anger and sadness during a divorce may not be directed at a spouse, but may instead be directed at yourself.  You may feel frustrated that you stayed as long as you did or didn’t see the signs sooner. You may feel sadness that you couldn’t protect your children more. You may be asking yourself why you let your spouse treat you the way that he did. As you feel these... Read more »
Topics You Shouldn’t be Afraid to Discuss with Your Divorce Lawyer

Topics You Shouldn’t be Afraid to Discuss with Your Divorce Lawyer

  |   By Nanda Davis

Going through a divorce often raises issues that seem private and may be embarrassing or make you feel uncomfortable. However, holding back on these issues often prevents your lawyer from being able to do the best job on your case.           Finances Clients are often embarrassed about the amount of debt they have or their poor planning for retirement. I am not here to judge you about money management. I know... Read more »
Life After Divorce From a Controlling Husband

Life After Divorce From a Controlling Husband

  |   By Nanda Davis

What would your life be like if you were free from your controlling husband? Would you be able to have your friends over for a dinner party or take a cooking class? Could you finally buy that dress you've had your eye on? Cut your hair, take a dancing class or travel? Divorce is a difficult process but many women I represent end up so much happier and free to finally live their lives without... Read more »
Fear of Alienating Children Cannot Determine How You Behave During a Divorce

Fear of Alienating Children Cannot Determine How You Behave During a Divorce

  |   By Nanda Davis

My female clients often tell me they don't want to file a legal document or testify to something in court, because they're afraid this will make their children side with their father instead of them. My advice is always the same: if you're being bullied, then you must stand up to the bully.  The appropriate way for my clients to stand up to their bully husbands is to allow me to file motions and petitions... Read more »
The State Of Divorce In The US

The State Of Divorce In The US

  |   By Nanda Davis

6 Surprising (But True) Divorce Statistics “Fifty percent of all U.S. marriages end in divorce,” is a popular statistic that has alarmed many young couples. However, you might be surprised to learn that statistic isn’t necessarily accurate. Thanks to a variety of recent surveys and polls, we have a better idea of what marriage and divorce looks like for U.S. adults in 2016. Here are six divorce statistics that will give you hope, or perhaps... Read more »
What To Do If Your Husband Is Being Secretive About Finances

What To Do If Your Husband Is Being Secretive About Finances

  |   By Nanda Davis

Whether your husband has always been fairly secretive about finances, or seems to be more secretive as of late—you may be wondering if there is something he is keeping hidden from you. What is important to remember is that there are a number of reasons why your husband may be secretive about your finances. For example, his reasoning could be fairly harmless and that as the primary breadwinner, it is his job to take care... Read more »
Why You Still Require A Child Custody Lawyer—Even With An Amicable Separation

Why You Still Require A Child Custody Lawyer—Even With An Amicable Separation

  |   By Nanda Davis

During a divorce, you and your spouse may become caught up in disputes about money and property. You may also have lingering feelings of anger, betrayal, and hurt. However, when it comes to custody agreements, you have to set aside your concerns, and put the needs of your children first. There are many legal and practical considerations that must be taken into account before a custody order is entered by the court. Below are some factors you may want... Read more »